How to Get a Girl to Text You Back

So you’ve got a girl’s number? Check. You’ve got an interested party on the other end? Check. You’ve got the wherewithal and ambition to push the interaction forward to a place where both of you want to go? Check. So you’re ready to make the first move, put yourself on the line, throw down for the things that you care about or the developing relationship that might be happening because you are in contact with this new person. But you have no idea how to get her to text back.
Like most things, though, you don’t have to fear, because the internet was built as a compendium, a resource to help people who want information but don’t quite know how to get to the spot they’re trying to get to. We at TSB mag are part of that compendium, so this is the definitive guide as to how to get a girl to text you back.

4 Steps to Get Her to Text You Back
When you’re talking about people texting back, you’re essentially talking about preventing flaking. Flaking is anything that’d happen in an interaction to stall the forward momentum, so you want to meet up with a girl, she’s not showing, you try to initiate a text conversation, she’s not biting, she avoids talking to you when she sees you out on the street, is heard cursing your name under her breath. Those type of thing would all be consider flaking. The very basest form of not flaking is returning the text messages you send out. Ideally, you’ll be texting her to continue the interaction, shoot for a meet-up, that kind of thing, but if she never responds, you’re toast. Here are some easy ways to cut down on text flaking.

1. When you get her number the first time, have a really, really good interaction.
The funny thing about people is, usually they don’t flake when the stakes are high and they have something to lose. If you had a really good first interaction with a woman, then she’s going to want to see you again. It’s as simple as that. If she wasn’t sure about you, and decided she wasn’t going to chase you and suddenly, you’re blowing up her phone – that’s a different matter entirely. So in order to make sure that you have the easiest time possible getting her to text back, make sure the first interaction goes seamless. Get her number based off of an event that the two of you would enjoy going to, make sure that there’s some unfinished threads in your conversation that you can wrap up later, and generally pace the interaction into seeing her again.

2. Once you have her number and start texting — end with a question.
Most things that people text girls don’t end in questions. Most things people text girls don’t always get a reply from the party intended – oftentimes because they don’t end in a question. The whole point of that is to build up a mini-compliance ladder so you can start getting more and more compliance from a person, eventually leading to a meet-up. If you don’t text a question, you are allowing the interaction to partially die right away. So don’t do that to yourself. Don’t shoot yourself in the foot or cut yourself off at the knees even before the interaction starts. You owe it to yourself not to.

3. Keep the interaction light and flirty.
People are much more inclined to keep a conversation going, via text, in person, or anywhere, if the tone of it is non-threatening and contributes to an overall sense of well-being and fun. If you can do that, even in short bursts like text messages, doing it in person is going to be much easier for you. So, keep it flirty. You’re much more likely to respond to someone who brings you good news or fun times, and women are no different. Don’t go overtly sexual, don’t be bringing up topics that are hard to comprehend, keep it simple and sweet.

4. Don’t be too needy.
I’ve heard instances of guys blowing up women’s phones to the tune of over 30 times a day. That’s ridiculous. The easiest way to get a girl to text you is to appear like you’re already doing better things, and then they’ll emotionally invest and chase you. It’s an old cliché, but people generally want things that they can’t have. If you come off too needy via text, you’re giving her reasons not to respond instead of good reasons to see you.

And you don’t want to be doing that. Fortunately, people usually reciprocate, so unless you had an entirely terrible interaction that is next to not recoverable, you’re solid.  That‘s how to get her to text back.

Romantic Text Messages to Send a Girl

One of the things that keep a girl going through the day is the promise of future romance. That’s right, romance. Every girl wants to meet the man of her dreams – she either wants to have a fun day, go shopping for the things she wants to buy, go traveling, and find the man of her dreams.
So let’s say you’re in a relationship with a girl, and everything’s going great. You’re connecting on a good level, you want to do nice things for her – daresay, even romantic? So the day you want to start doing romantic things for somebody, you’re looking for the right things to say…we have you covered. But to become a true man of romance, you’re going to have to do some things on your own – some experimentation, gaining some knowledge for yourself – but these are some easy romantic texts to play with.

Sweet, Romantic, and Flirty Text Messages

1.  Let’s go out tonight. I’m going to surprise you.
Text messages are all well and good, but I’m a giant advocate of the real world. As in, stepping outside, being in the moment, appreciating what you have, and what the world has to offer, and indulging in it. There’s nothing better than being with someone whose company you appreciate, having a great experience, and letting it seep into your consciousness as a memory. Here’s the thing – women like a man to be dominant. If you surprise a woman, and the surprise is good – there’s nothing that gets her heart a racin’ and loins a stirrin’ better than that. So if you have the opportunity, surprise her. For instance…

2.  Surprise! Got you tickets to Spain!
Now, this is a giant hypothetical. You don’t necessarily need to give somebody tickets to Spain to enjoy and reap the benefits of positive emotional spikes. You can give her anything, provided that it’s something she doesn’t expect and would really enjoy. That makes fezzes out of the question, unless she enjoys festive hats. Too much of this is a bad thing, and what some people would deem as ‘rich guy game’. You don’t want to be buying her things all the time, you want to be rewarding her through operant conditioning and going from there. Operant conditioning is when you are intermittently rewarded, so you’ll keep emotionally investing in something until the end of time. Which is what you want out of a relationship, right?

3. You have no idea how beautiful/adorable/adjective you are.
Women love compliments. If you’ve been around long enough to know how to use the internet, you know how much women love compliments. They love them more than anything. They help validate them, hint at the fact that they’re worth tons and tons of people’s times – and that’s what helps them feel the most attractive. Also, if you’re being romantic towards someone, make sure that you’re dating someone that you feel romantic towards, otherwise your compliments will ring hollow, and it won’t be as genuine and nice. More importantly, you’ll be living a lie, and honesty is the most important thing.

4.  Got you something. Check outside.
Another surprise. Basically, the most romantic things that you can do for someone involve surprises and being dominating in a light and affectionate way. That’s all a woman is waiting for – to be swept off her feet. This one involves a gift. I used to leave boxes of wafer cookies and a note at the house of people I was involved with if they were feeling bad – it almost always brightened their day and made them more attached. It’s way easy to do, too, especially if there’s something they enjoy that you can give that doesn’t cost that much. In another case, somebody I knew really enjoyed In N’ Out’s fries – which cost basically nothing to buy and bring by. Free haircuts. See how this can apply so easily to your life? Good deeds cost way less than manipulative ones, karma-wise and in terms of expenses.

5. You had a bad day. Let me help you out.
This is the text that you send that’s a precursor to a very important key to the sexual escalation puzzle – you are going to give a girl a massage. Girls love massages – they aren’t touched platonically enough, and when someone is purportedly touching them platonically, that person is generally getting ready to have sex with them. What’s more romantic than a good deed that’s not looking for any other deed in response? Nothing’s more romantic than that. So text her that, and give her a massage. Or something that she’s after.

6. Meet me at _____ tonight.
Nothing more romantic than flying by the seat of your trousers and making plans spontaneously, right? Make sure you’re in enough with the girl where she’d encourage that, and it’s not something where you sound like you’re going to be dropping drugs off at her house or meeting her in a darkened, shady alley. That would not be a good thing.

7. I miss you.
Pretty self-explanatory. And if someone else is missing you at the same time, it’s the most romantic thing you can tell them.

How to Get a Girl’s Phone Number

So you’re taking the initiative to go out, you’re hitting up the hot spots in your town, all you have to do next is meet the girls. So you’re meeting girls, you’re getting your game on, you’re doing everything you can during the interaction to turn her on your side.

Now you need to do the one thing that’ll let you see her later. You need to take the interaction to the next plateau and make it so you can keep in touch with each other and get in each other’s social circles — you need to get the girl’s phone number.

Now, a phone number has some loaded implications — a lot of girls don’t want to give out their phone numbers to strangers, some guys only collect the phone numbers of girls with no intention on following up on them. Which is why trading the number has to come at a certain point where she’s comfortable, even excited to be giving her number out, you’re stoked to have it, and both parties want to reciprocate. You can’t ever ensure that you’re going to meet up with a girl, you don’t know what’s going to come in any given interaction.

But phone numbers? You can help getting phone numbers. You can learn how to get a girl’s phone number. There are quick and easy ways. Here’s how.

The Best Ways to Ask For a Girl’s Phone Number
1. Make sure when you go out, you’re actually approaching people.
That’s right, the next time you go to a bar or a show, or any giant social gathering — don’t hug the wall and be antisocial, don’t be the guy who people are wondering why he’s sitting in the corner, arguing with himself, not talking to anybody at the bar or at the dance floor. You’re not going to pull any numbers if you’re enjoying the same habits that you’ve been doing in the last few years. Get out. Open. Socialize. That’s step one.

2. Be real good at building comfort.
The only thing you have to worry about when you’re getting into a conversation with a stranger is whether or not she’s comfortable with you, what she’s at in the interaction. If you can get to the point where she’s talking about her dreams and desires, and cool things to do around town, you’re already at the point where you can get her number. Then you just have to infer that you two should stay in touch, and go for the digits. It’s that easy. If you’re good at building comfort, you’ll be able to get anybody’s numbers who you want. If you’re not, you’re going to have a lot of work to do that you won’t be very happy about.

3. Be more excited about the event when you’re getting her number than the actual number.
This might be a foreign thing to some people, but you have to realize, the entire point of game is to project that you’re not that interested in your target, but she has every possible reason to be interested in you. So when you use words like ‘phone number’ instead of contact details and bring up the idea of exchanging it instead of letting her arrive at that conclusion, sometimes it looks like you’re being too overeager. You don’t want to be too overeager. That’ll cut you off at the knees. Don’t cut yourself off at the knees. Play it cool. And speaking of playing it cool…

4.Know what the interesting things to do around town are.
This can’t be stressed enough. If you’re going to look like any kind of leader, you have to know what’s going down in your town. You have to know what type of events the girls you’re talking to will enjoy going to, and hint at those events. If you don’t know what’s cool to do around town, try to get a travel guide, acquainted with the entire operation on Yelp or Citysearch — there are always cool things to be doing. And if you can’t be doing cool things in your town and you’re in a little one — guess what. You have the creativity and the space to arrange for your own time and events. That’s not a terrible thing — it’s a great thing.

5. Stop being afraid to ask for it.
Guess what — you’re going to get numbers if you ask for them. If you never ask for phone numbers, you’re never going to get them. The minute you start asking for them is the minute you’re going to start getting more and more of them. At the beginning, it’s an approach game — the more you approach, the more numbers you get….
…so get out there. Start making connections with people, start justifying reasons why you should stay in touch, and the numbers will start coming, much more easily than you anticipated. That’s how you can get a girl’s phone number.

Romantic Text Messages to Send a Girl

One of the things that keep a girl going through the day is the promise of future romance. That’s right, romance. Every girl wants to meet the man of her dreams – she either wants to have a fun day, go shopping for the things she wants to buy, go traveling, and find the man of her dreams.
So let’s say you’re in a relationship with a girl, and everything’s going great. You’re connecting on a good level, you want to do nice things for her – daresay, even romantic? So the day you want to start doing romantic things for somebody, you’re looking for the right things to say…we have you covered. But to become a true man of romance, you’re going to have to do some things on your own – some experimentation, gaining some knowledge for yourself – but these are some easy romantic texts to play with.

Sweet, Romantic, and Flirty Text Messages

1.  Let’s go out tonight. I’m going to surprise you.
Text messages are all well and good, but I’m a giant advocate of the real world. As in, stepping outside, being in the moment, appreciating what you have, and what the world has to offer, and indulging in it. There’s nothing better than being with someone whose company you appreciate, having a great experience, and letting it seep into your consciousness as a memory. Here’s the thing – women like a man to be dominant. If you surprise a woman, and the surprise is good – there’s nothing that gets her heart a racin’ and loins a stirrin’ better than that. So if you have the opportunity, surprise her. For instance…

2.  Surprise! Got you tickets to Spain!
Now, this is a giant hypothetical. You don’t necessarily need to give somebody tickets to Spain to enjoy and reap the benefits of positive emotional spikes. You can give her anything, provided that it’s something she doesn’t expect and would really enjoy. That makes fezzes out of the question, unless she enjoys festive hats. Too much of this is a bad thing, and what some people would deem as ‘rich guy game’. You don’t want to be buying her things all the time, you want to be rewarding her through operant conditioning and going from there. Operant conditioning is when you are intermittently rewarded, so you’ll keep emotionally investing in something until the end of time. Which is what you want out of a relationship, right?

3. You have no idea how beautiful/adorable/adjective you are.
Women love compliments. If you’ve been around long enough to know how to use the internet, you know how much women love compliments. They love them more than anything. They help validate them, hint at the fact that they’re worth tons and tons of people’s times – and that’s what helps them feel the most attractive. Also, if you’re being romantic towards someone, make sure that you’re dating someone that you feel romantic towards, otherwise your compliments will ring hollow, and it won’t be as genuine and nice. More importantly, you’ll be living a lie, and honesty is the most important thing.

4.  Got you something. Check outside.
Another surprise. Basically, the most romantic things that you can do for someone involve surprises and being dominating in a light and affectionate way. That’s all a woman is waiting for – to be swept off her feet. This one involves a gift. I used to leave boxes of wafer cookies and a note at the house of people I was involved with if they were feeling bad – it almost always brightened their day and made them more attached. It’s way easy to do, too, especially if there’s something they enjoy that you can give that doesn’t cost that much. In another case, somebody I knew really enjoyed In N’ Out’s fries – which cost basically nothing to buy and bring by. Free haircuts. See how this can apply so easily to your life? Good deeds cost way less than manipulative ones, karma-wise and in terms of expenses.

5. You had a bad day. Let me help you out.
This is the text that you send that’s a precursor to a very important key to the sexual escalation puzzle – you are going to give a girl a massage. Girls love massages – they aren’t touched platonically enough, and when someone is purportedly touching them platonically, that person is generally getting ready to have sex with them. What’s more romantic than a good deed that’s not looking for any other deed in response? Nothing’s more romantic than that. So text her that, and give her a massage. Or something that she’s after.

6. Meet me at _____ tonight.
Nothing more romantic than flying by the seat of your trousers and making plans spontaneously, right? Make sure you’re in enough with the girl where she’d encourage that, and it’s not something where you sound like you’re going to be dropping drugs off at her house or meeting her in a darkened, shady alley. That would not be a good thing.
7. I miss you.
Pretty self-explanatory. And if someone else is missing you at the same time, it’s the most romantic thing you can tell them.

How to Get a Girlfriend

In a lot of the resources available online, you may notice a trend moving away from getting girlfriends and towards the kind of sex where you’d meet someone, charm them in the bar, and have sex with them in the bathroom stall. That is not always a viable option, or even an attractive one for members of the opposite sex – it purely appeals to a male fantasy.

Besides, you don’t want to have the type of women who’d have sex in the bathroom stall as your girlfriend – that’d be the most ridiculous thing in the world. You can’t make a housewife. So you don’t want the fast and easy lays, you want the quality ones – you want to get a girlfriend and you don’t know how to get a girlfriend.

There are some easy ways you can plant the idea in a girl’s head that you’d be a viable candidate for a future boyfriend, and some things that you can do to make yourself attractive to someone who’s looking.  And help you find a girlfriend.

Skills that will Help You Get a Girlfriend

1.  Aquire boyfriend-type skills.
Guess what? Girls love it when men have the skills to take care of them. It’s a form of dominance, and also a sign that if she should choose to have babies with the man, he’ll make sure they don’t wander out a window or into the woods where they’d be helpless with their baby defensive skills. It’s a sign that they care about themselves enough to maintain things and to have ambition – always attractive.

What are boyfriend skills? Anything that’ll help you take care of someone. Cooking, backrubs, personal fitness, being able to brighten someone’s day – all of this adds huge amounts of value to you. Not saying you can’t be valuable if you don’t have those skills, all I’m saying is that it helps tremendously. Have a sense of fashion – be able to add something to her life. If you’re not able to do any of that, it’s going to be greatly detrimental to you.

2.  Know what you’re after.
Here’s a simple idea to help you get a girlfriend.  A lot of men wander around in the dating world, completely unaware of what type of woman they want to attract. They don’t even know what they want, they’ve been hungry so long – akin to a man that’s put in the desert, then let out, and he doesn’t care what he eats, as long as it’s something. Anything.

That perfectly describes the dating lives of a lot of men around the world – they don’t care what they have, as long as it’s something, anything to stave off the loneliness. A lot of women are the same way. It’d be much better for them to make a list of the qualities they’re looking after in a potential suitor instead of wandering around to make a Sisyphus-like effort pushing someone up their hill of standards. Get standards. It’s much easier to qualify someone based on them.

3.  Future-pace from the first encounter.
This is a pretty advanced technique, but if you’re trolling the TSB message boards for techniques, chances are that you’re already on your way to becoming an expert seducer, perhaps the greatest the world has ever known. So it’s given that you’d want to acquire this type of knowledge.

Future pacing is talking about the activities you’re going to do in the future. Simple as that. But, if they’re numerous and exciting activities in the future, you might be able to make her investment in you that much greater by sparking her emotions. Pretty simple – talk about cool stuff you’re going to do together, and that cool stuff will make her want to see you more.

4.  Have your own inside jokes.
Inside jokes can isolate someone in a group situation, but outside of that situation, recall past emotional investment in a way to draw someone closer to you. The closer you want to get with someone, the more inside jokes you should have with them. Even a pet name, or something to take them out of their headspace and remind them of all the fun times you’ve had is completely
acceptable. It’s the start of a reciprocating relationship, and that’s what you want in an ideal situation.
One-sized relationships suck, we’ve all been there and had to deal with the lion’s share of emotional investment, only to leave scarred and broken. Don’t start off headed in that direction – start off where you’re both giving to each other – reciprocating.

5. Make the dates you go on incredibly interesting.
Who do you want to date – someone who has problems being creative, or someone whom you can’t wait to spend time with again? You want the second type. So do women. Make sure that you’re being exciting, taking them on dates to get their emotional investment up and riled, and go from there. Also? Have the gumption to ask her out. It’ll help get the ball rolling much easier.
These are some skills you need to build to learn how to get a girlfriend.

The Art of Texting Girls that Every Man Should Learn

Texting girls is an art.  Lots of men who take girls number for the first time don’t know how to start the conversation, whether to call or to send a message, so usually they choose what is easier. They send a message and fail right from the first one.  After that they think that that woman didn’t like them because of their appearance or maybe something else but very often it starts from a small detail such as a text message.
So what are the purposes of texting?

1. Men are trying to start a connection between them and girls.
2. Men simply want to stay in touch while they see their girl next time.
3. Men are texting girls to bring their relationship to the point where they can easily start flirting.

 But before we start talking about messages, I would like to talk a little bit about some serious mistakes that men often make when texting girls.

1. Senseless messages that bear no meaning. Messages like “how’s going?” or “what’s up” are just the same messages that your target girl gets every day from many other guys who target her, so why would your message be the one to be answered?
2. If you send messages every hour, then trust me, the girl will never be waiting for your message, because she will be sure, that you are going to write soon again. There is no intrigue in your actions, if you are predictable.
3.  And the very last mistake is when a guy tries to have a conversation over the messages, but through the live talk. Messages are not created for people to get to know each other.

Every time, when you send her a message, there is to be a part of fun and flirtatiousness. Forget about messages, that don’t show who you are. But don’t give out too much of yourself, because you will lose the intrigue.
Every woman wants a man that she will love to spend time with, so if your start of relationship was a boring message, that she even forgot to answer, you better be doing something else…
Here are the three main rules, of how men should be texting girls.

1. The message must contain value. What do I mean by that? Try to write messages, that a girl wouldn’t have to answer, but still would do it. How? How about… “I was working and for some reason you popped up in my head, so just wanted to say hi”. It gives her desire to shoot you back, because you are being nice with her, even during the time you work. Of course, you’ve been thinking about her all day long, but make her feel like you weren’t thinking about her at all.
2. Do short messages. If you write long messages, you are becoming predictable, so try to always give her something like a movie trailer, so she would be inpatient to watch the rest of it.
3.  Have you ever waited for her answer to your message for few hours? Well…lots of men did… You know why? There were no roller coaster effect in you messages. If you normally answer back within few minutes, it makes you to be predictable. So try to not answer the message right away, wait for 20 minutes. Sometimes even one hour or one day would be good, because you want to remain vogue and leave her wondering.

So again, don’t answer every question they ask, try to flirt, be unpredictable, leave the sweetest moments of your chats for face to face meetings and stop being boring in your messages.

Dating Advice for Men- What Every Man Should Know

The world of dating is a weird, weird world. That’s why so many horror stories come from it. Less horror stories come from actual horror novels than the world of real-world dating, and that fact is disturbing to anyone who puts a feeler out to the real world of men meeting women, women meeting men, and same genders meeting other same-gendered people. Or any other variation we might’ve missed. It’s all basically frightening and can scar you for life if you let it – you’ve probably met somebody that’s been incredibly burned by the dating scene. It’s not a pretty sight.
So, let’s try to sift through the chaff and find the strategies and tips that’ll work universally for people who are trying to either meet that special someone, or juggle a few special somebodies. These are dating tips for those out there carrying the Y-Chromosome. The men who want to get out there and get at them. Here are some things to keep in mind when you’re going around town, hitting the scene.

4 Dating Tips for Men

1. Women want to date good men.
They say 10% of the men that are out there get 90% of the women. Why? Because they’re the alpha males of the group. They have the pick of the women they want, while the rest of us shuffle our feet around and play the ‘nice guy’. They don’t have to. They already have the interest, and just have to parlay it into coordinating the proper logistics and pushing physical escalation forward. Sucks, doesn’t it? Not really, because once you learn what it is women are after, you can actively make yourself into the type of person that can add value to them instead of taking it away. You can stop being that guy who takes things away from people, and start being the guy who adds. It’s entirely fixable.

2. Women want to date men who are leaders.
This is more subtle, but if someone is projecting influence on the group, that’s the person everyone’s going to be attracted to. In a loud group, the quiet one is viewed as the odd one out and the attractive one. In a quiet group, the loud one is the same way. The person who can influence everyone’s actions and gets the most attention, the person that people defer to is generally the leader. You can be a leader. Stop being the quietest, most timid version of yourself, and live up to the promise of the image that you have in your head. Instead of thinking about what the proper thing to do in a given situation is, think about what the best version of yourself would do, and simply follow suit.

3. Don’t be afraid of getting sexual.
One of the biggest problems that you see again and again with guys that are going out is that they get the girls interested in them, then don’t know what to do once the energy in a conversation shifts in a different direction. Girls want to be sexual. Otherwise, they’d have no use for us men. They’d just sit at home, doing whatever it is that brings them joy, but there’s something in them – just like us – that makes them want to ravage the men they find attractive. You just have to be that attractive man. So, when the best version of yourself is faced with a girl who is hanging around you, trying to be alone with you, etc. etc. – what is he going to do? He’s going to step up his game and bring it to the next level is what he’s going to do. Isolate her, and start up an escalation ladder. Either one that you’ve heard about before, or one that works for you.

4. Don’t be afraid of meeting a lot of people.
There’s a great big world out there, with a lot of people doing a lot of different things. Guess what? You have an opportunity to sift through them and find the right person that works for you. That’s not a curse, it’s a blessing. Once you get out into the great big world of dating, you have to realize that having taste and choice will serve you in stead rather than limiting yourself. If you have taste and a powerful frame, be prepared – it’s going to be much easier than you originally thought it would be. Girls like that in people – it doesn’t matter what you look like. Looks are just what YOU think they are. Girls really don’t care.

They care more about what you bring to the table status-wise. But that’s an entirely different article to be looking at, other than just some simplistic dating tips for men.
Get out there and enjoy yourself. That’s what life is all about, isn’t it?  I hope you enjoyed these dating tips for men.

7 Deadly Texting Mistakes- Part 2

Let’s face it… texting women can be downright confusing…
(What to write, what did her last text mean, how long should I wait to text her again, Is she ignoring my texts?)

The worst part is when the girl stops responding or just seems to disappear.. you never quite know why…

Chances are it can be rooted down to one of these mistakes…
Even though all of these mistakes are subtle… they have a powerful ability to kill attraction quickly.
So let’s get into it.

Mistake #5: Going for the Meetup without Sparking Emotion
Here is another hard, cold fact. If you ask a woman to hang out, without first sparking and emotion.. she will almost always turn you down.

Why?
Because all of the positive emotions she felt when she was with you has dwindled.
And the thought of getting dressed up, and going to meet a guy she barely knows (and the potential you’ll turn out to be a creep or just awkward) is not worth the effort.
Logically she can easily talk herself out of it.

Which is why you MUST engage her on an emotional level first.
It is MUCH easier to get a “yes” out of a woman once you’ve sparked a positive emotion.
The two best ways to do this are with flirting or humor.

Here’s an important concept: She is NOT going to remember all your good qualities. So it’s your JOB to remind her.

Mistake #6: Becoming too “Predictable”
Lets say that you’ve now succeeded in getting up a date with a girl. You may think you’re home free when it comes to texting, but there’s still some things you need to keep in mind to ensure you CONTINUE to see your girls.

First, you never want to fall into predictable patterns. Lots of guys use the same jokes, same questions, and same  texts over and over. While it may be easier to fall into “complacency” with a woman you’re dating, don’t do it!

Instead, break things up with some spicy ever once in a while. Tell her you have a “surprise” to show her later.  Tell her something reminded you of her, but don’t tell her what it is right away. Ask her to send you a funny picture of something (or send her a funny picture of something).

Keep her guessing what your text will be and you’ll keep her interested in you. Moreover, keeping the “spark” of a  relationship alive is very important when it comes to creating a great sex life.
As long as you don’t become ultra predictable, you should have your girl texting YOU asking YOU when you’re available to hang out.

Mistake #7: Thinking She’s Different
I have stressed over and over again “Never tell a girl how you feel about her over text”…
Yet, day after day I get emails from students telling me a story about how they confessed their feelings to a girl over text…

And every time- they scare the girl away.
In your mind, you’re going to try to convince yourself that “She is different.”
Or that “It won’t work on her”
But the minute you tell yourself ‘she’s different’ you are on the road to losing her…
Guys continually do things like:
- Texting her too much
- Paying her gushing compliments over text
- Not asking her to hang out because you’re scared…
And time and time again they’ll face the same consequences as all the other guys have…
Ok…

So now that you know the big mistakes you need to avoid its time formulate a solid game plan.
In this video you’re going to learn how to turn your phone into a magnet… by using a specific sequence of texts called: The Key Lock Sequence.
Watch the video now: 

7 Deadly Texting Mistakes and How to Avoid Them- Part 1

One of the most frustrating things is when you get a woman’s number (and she seems to be totally into you)

… But then after a few texts she seems to list interest, fizzle out, or go cold.

The natural reaction is to blame the woman. “She’s a flake…”

But if you do that, you could missing a giant crink in YOUR GAME that is easier to fix than you think.

In fact, if you’re like most guys than you’re probably just making one (or a few) of these common ‘texting’ mistakes that will kill your chances with a girl.

The 7 Deadly Texting Mistakes

Mistake #1: Confusing Responses for Attraction

Before you’ve had your first date with a girl, she won’t  feel much of a connection to you. As unfortunate as it may be, you’re probably not the only guy texting her.
See, a common mistake most guys make when they’re texting a girl is that they mistake responses for attraction. Often when a guy is getting a response from a girl, he believes that he’s getting closer to getting her on a date or to seducing her.

The exact opposite is true!

The more texts you send before meeting up with girl means the less of a chance you have of actually meeting up with her! That’s right: even if a girl is RESPONDING to your texts, you’re not getting yourself ANY closer to actually getting her out on a date.

Instead, say more with less. Whenever you’re considering what to text a girl, see if you say it simpler, with less text. Most guys send pointless texts to women like, “How’s your day?” or “Enjoying the warm weather?” These texts DO NOT bring you ANY closer to a woman! They just beg for a response (which doesn’t mean anything).

To make sure you NEVER again waste texts on pointless chatter, ask yourself this golden question:
How is this text bringing this girl and I closer to a date?

If your answer is simply “to get her to know her better,” erase the text. It’s not going to help you.

Mistake #2: Not Conveying “Fun”
Here is the simple truth. When a woman gives you her number she is NOT signing a social contract to go out with you…

And until it seems FUN for her… she’s probably not going to bother meeting up with you.
So when you send boring texts that don’t display any personality or don’t elicit any emotions in her… in her mind you’re not worth the trouble of meeting up with.

Here are some signs you’re NOT being fun.

- Am I being stiff and formal “Hi. It was nice meeting you friday”…. (too stiff. too formal)
- Am I putting pressure on her to keep the conversation going?
- Am I bothering her with questions?

Remember, every text you send should make you seem like the FUN OPTION. The escape from her boring day.

Mistake #3: Not Having a Texting Style
If you’re texting an attractive woman chances are you are NOT the only guy she is getting a text from today.

Hate to break it to you.

But between other guys pursuing her, ex boyfriends,  co-workers, classmates, and so on… she’s got a lot of guys vying for her attention.

So if you want to stand out- your texts need to display your unique style and personality.
She should be able to know its a text from you just by reading it (even if the name was blocked)
What words, phrases, punctuation, or emoticons are uniquely yours?

Mistake #4 Having Long Text Conversations
Text conversations are NOT the same as actual conversations.
Texting should be the “Super cool” cliff notes of a normal conversations. Meaning leave out the formalities.

The longer the conversation the more chances to mess things up or run into awkward confusion.
Every time you pick up the phone… jump right into the good stuff. Start with anecdote. Start with a teasing nickname. Find a way to quickly spark an emotion and get her paying full attention to you.
In this new video just released I explain how you can (and should) accomplish everything you need to accomplish with just three simple texts.

Check out the video and learn how you can turn a woman on, and get her out on a date with a simple sequence of texts called: The Key Lock Sequence.

How to Ask a Girl Out Via Text

Many guys struggle with this when it comes to texting and dating – Asking a girl out via text.
By now, a lot of you have had experience asking out a girl in person. However, asking a girl out via text is much easier and much more low pressure.

The ultimate goal in texting is to always meet up with the girl you’re interested in. The way that you invite a girl out shows how comfortable you are with yourself and comfortable around women. Remember, through your texts, you should be portraying that you’re a high-status man and that asking someone out is no big deal.

Planting the Seed for Meeting Up:
One of the best ways to make any hangout or date low-key is to “plant the seed” of a hang out before an invite is ever offered. By texting her in this way, you’re able to gauge how much intrigue you’ve created in her.

For example… Instead of texting a girl “what are you doing Thursday?” or “We should hang out Thursday,” you can simply imply or “plant the seed” of a hang-out on Thursday night. A better example of “planting the seed” would be “Do you like long islands, laughing your face off, and great company?”

You want to make any implied plans seem so fun that she would be crazy to not say yes.

Invite Her to Something You’re Already Doing:
If the girl that you’re interested is in her late teens and 20s, odds are she’s being hounded by guys to hang out on a one-on-one basis. To a lot of girls, this screams “trouble.” However, you can cut through a lot of objections to getting more hangouts by simply making plans with friends, and then inviting her (and her fun friends) to meet up with you guys.

Keep in mind that even though you’re an awesome guy that does fun things in his life, just because you two exchanged numbers doesn’t mean that she ever has to hang out with you. There’s no social contract that says you have to hang out with every person that has your phone number.

So, when you do send the invite, you want to do it in a fun way, and you want to imply that you’re doing a fun activity with your friends whether she goes or not. This way, even if she flakes, you still have your friends there and you’re still gonna have a fun time.

Your best bet is to phrase your invite along the lines of this:
“Hey there, sugar lips, I’m gonna be going to (activity) with some friends tonight, if you promise not to embarrass me, you can come and bring a couple friends :)”
Simple, fun, and non-committal.
If you want more examples of how to get more hangouts, check out Race’s new book “Text That Girl!” today!

Text That Girl- Why Has She Stopped Responding and How to Get Her to Respond

You did the groundwork and you got her number, you sent her an awesome first text that captured her attention and engaged her emotions, and now you’ve been texting on-and-off for a few days now…
All of a sudden, you send her a text…

Nothing.
You send another…
Nothing.
You wait for hours…
Still nothing.
Frustrating, isn’t it?
I’ve been there!
It happens to the best of us.
Now, the important thing to remember if and when this happens is to not take it personally. So many guys will confront a girl, hounding her for an explanation. Others will internalize it all and blame themselves. However, there could be literally hundreds of reasons why she hasn’t responded:

• She’s busy at work
• Her phone is dead
• She had a family emergency
• She literally forgot to text back

Of course, there are also a couple major reasons she did not text you back:

1. You texted too much, too soon:It goes without saying, but sometimes we get so excited about getting a cute girl’s number that we, without realizing it, over-text them. In the early stages of the interaction, remember – less is more. Your goal of the early interactions is to engage her emotions, create attraction, and get her out on a date.The mindset here to adopt is – send it and forget it. Literally set your phone down if you are too tempted to immediately respond. By immediately responding to her messages, you subconsciously give off the vibe that you are sitting around waiting for her messages. Nothing kills attraction faster than being over eager.
2. Your texts were too generic and didn’t engage her emotions:Have you ever sent a funny or insightful text, only to get a response of “lol” or “k”? Remember how frustrating it was? As a text master, you will never send these bland, generic texts again. Generic texts will never engage her at her emotional core. Remember – women are emotional creatures, so it is on you to spark her emotions early and often.
3. She lost interest in you:This is really a combination of one and two, if you are texting too much, too soon or sending generic one-word texts that don’t engage her emotions, eventually she will lose interest and it will be back to square one…

However, there’s no need to worry. You can immediately fix these issues by doing the following things:

• Be bold in your texts
• Make sure to mirror her response time and length of text when responding
• Be more descriptive with your language to engage her emotions
• Put your phone down and go do something else after you text her
• Don’t over think things. It’s only been an hour – don’t drive yourself crazy waiting for a response.

Of course, there are several great ways to re-engage and recapture a woman’s attention that you can find into specifically in Race’s book “Text That Girl!”

Text That Girl- Sending the First Text

What Your First Texts Say About You:
It should be stated that if you’re texting a girl, odds are that other guys are texting her, too. While you want to have zero expectations whether you’re texting one girl or multiple girls, you must separate yourself from the pack and engage her at her emotional core.

You want to convey, through text, that you are a high-status individual, that meeting and talking to girls is nothing new to you, and that you have a fun, non-needy personality that makes every text conversation fun.

However, you don’t want to become her new text-buddy. Of course, the texting is there so that you will eventually hang with her in person…

The Best First Texts to Send:

So, how do you craft a text message that sets you apart, and makes her want to hang out with you? In my experience, I’ve narrowed it down to three elements that will guarantee a response:

1. Engage her emotions, causing her to feel or re-affirm attraction to you.
2. Set a fun, playful tone for the future interactions.
3. Compels her to respond.

The most powerful element of creating the best first text is engaging her emotions. Remember that women are emotional creatures, and the best way to spark attraction is to do so through her emotions. If you had a great first interaction before you got her number, you want to continue those emotions when you re-connect via text.

The best way to compel her to respond is to ask her a question that requires a fun response. Asking “what’s up” or “what are you doing” is boring, and what most of the guys in her phone book would ask. By simply reframing “what’s up” to “what kind of shenanigans are you getting into,” you make it much more fun and playful…

Adopting a light and playful mentality in your text interactions will transfer from her phone to her emotional brain, compelling her to respond to this and future texts.

In Race’s book “Text That Girl!” he gives several more examples of how to engage her emotions, sets a playful tone, and compels her to respond.

9 Tips to Keep a Conversation Going

As we all know by now, talking to a beautiful woman who you’ve never met before is one of the harder things you’ll have to do. In fact, so much of your energy is put into trying to psyche yourself up to talk to her, that a lot of the time you get there with nothing to say, leaving nothing but awkward silence between you after your initial, “Hi.” Never fear! By following the following tips you’ll be able to avoid those awful moments of silence.

Tip 1: Improvise with the conversation
One way to quickly end a conversation is by answering any questions she may ask with a simple “yes” or “no”. Instead, you should answer with a longer answer that could lead to more conversation. For example, if she asks what you like, instead of saying something simple like “I like baseball” make it a longer answer like “I like baseball because it reminds me of when my dad used to take me to Yankees games as a kid”. Suddenly, you’ve not only offered a little bit more about yourself (never a bad thing, especially when it shows to the woman you have feelings) but also have opened the conversation up to any amount of avenues.

Tip 2: Show your passion
Nothing gets a girl excited like when a guy is excited about something. So many guys think that pouting and showing their emo face will draw women in by their inherent mystery. But once the girls solve that mystery – and usually there’s honestly no much to solve – they move on. Instead, if a topic comes up you’re genuinely interested in, don’t be afraid to dork out a little and speak passionately about it.

Tip 3: Don’t ask too many questions, instead use statements
It’s common knowledge that women like to speak about themselves a lot, so guys reciprocate this behavior by asking a lot of questions. However, a lot of the rapid-fire questioning can be seen as intimidating and, in a lot of cases, very boring. Instead, once the woman answers a question follow it up with a statement. For example, if a you ask a girl about her pets and she answers that she has two, instead of following up by wondering what their names are, make a statement like “You know what they say, a cat lover is known to be more independent than dog lovers.” This will open not only keep the conversation on her, but also open the conversation to other things.

Tip 4: Forget the facts, use emotions
A common known fact is that women are much more in touch with their emotions than men are, and so it makes sense that this is one of the things that women love to get men to talk about. So when talking about a certain subject like, say, snowboarding, instead of going over the statistics of snowboarding (the various places she’s skied, how good the snow is, how good she is at snowboarding) go ahead and ask her how she feels when she’s snowboarding. This will help open the conversation and show your sensitive side.

Tip 5: Be a careful storyteller
There is a positive and negative to telling a story to someone you’ve just met. On the plus side, since you just met them they don’t know any of your stories and you’re free to tell anything you like (and even embellish them a little, if you’d like). Unfortunately, since they don’t know you, they’re also spending time listening to the story while trying to figure out the qualities of the storyteller. For example, if you mention that you had to “wake up early”, an old friend of yours will brush aside that fact. But someone knew will start to ask themselves, “Why was he waking up early? Does he have an important job in the morning?” As such, make sure to be careful about what details you put into a story. The woman will be trying to read between every line you put out there.

Tip 6: Use the cold reads
Cold reads are when you’re able to know something about someone just by looking at them; think of it like when a poker player “reads” another player at the table. Making an assumption about a girl (ex: “you look like an intelligent girl”) and telling her about it is something you should try. Definitely don’t make it too negative of a read, but by showing the woman you can read and talk about her emotional state, you once again show the softer side of you. Also, it doesn’t hurt that the conversation is once again about her.

Tip 7: Have fun with her
One of the biggest things you can do is tease her a little during the conversation. Use innocent recess-like humor such as high-fiving her and telling her stupid corny jokes. This will show that you don’t have to be serious every waking hour of the day. Instead, she’ll remember you as a fun guy that she’d like to talk to again.

Tip 8: Turn “safe” to “unsafe”
For example, in a conversation about how you’re a dog owner and she’s a cat owner, feel free to say something like “I’ve heard that cat owners and dog owners can’t have a long-lasting relationship with each other, but that doesn’t mean they can’t have awesome sex.” You’ve taken a safe topic (pet-owning) and made it unsafe (about sex). You can really do this with anything. She’ll like this in the same way that a lot of girls are always attracted to the “bad guy”.

Tip 9: Don’t forget your non-verbals
More important than anything you can say are the non-verbal pieces of communication you use in the conversation. Showing that you’re comfortable and confident are a hundred times more important than the actual content of your conversation. At the end of the day, she’s less likely to remember the specifics of what you two were talking about and, instead, more likely to remember that she was talking to a confident man. And one that she wants to talk to again.

>>>Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy and learn how to instantly generate attraction through the way you talk to women.

5 Steps to Flirting With Women

If you want to meet, attract, and date more women then you need to learn how to flirt with women.  The best way to do this is learn a few good flirting techniques and then to go out and practice them.  In this article I will give you a five step process for creating that fun, flirtatious vibe that women are most attracted to.

1.  Get playful
The first characteristic that you want to display to a woman is that you’re playful.  This is because women hate getting stuck talking to nervous, cautious, and boring guys.    As soon as you demonstrate to a woman that you are fun guy… she will put her guard down and begin opening up to you more.

2.  Tease her
A great way to flirt with a woman is to tease her.  As you’re talking to her look for an opportunity to make fun of something she is doing.  Don’t be mean or cruel, you’re just looking to ‘bust her balls’ about something silly she has done or said.

3.  Use physical teases
After you’ve used verbal teasing to let her know you’re flirting with her, you can then begin to physically tease her.  Physical teases include making an exaggerated expression as she is telling a story, sticking your tongue out at her, or pulling your hand away when she goes to give you high five.
If these sound childish.. they are meant to.  The best examples of flirting are the sort of things you used to do back on the playground in the fourth grade.

4.  Keep her guessing
Women love the suspense of not knowing exactly how you feel about them.  Once you come right out and tell a girl you like her, the sexual tension that was building between the two of  you begins to die down.  This is why it is always better to never quite let her know where she stands with you.  This idea of push/pull is a powerful technique when flirting with a woman.

5.  Escalate the flirtation
Once you’ve established yourself as a fun, flirty type of guy, you must begin taking the conversation to a more sexual level.  This is because you don’t want to come across as the “funny friend” or “the flirt”… instead, you want her to begin seeing you as a guy she would like to get intimate with.  The best way to do this is become more physical.  This means you do things like hold her hand, hold eye contact longer, and get closer to her.
 
>>>Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy and learn how to instantly generate attraction through the way you talk to women.

Conversation Topics That Keep Her Attention, Charm Her, and Attract Her

You can spend all the time you want on your looks, book reservations at the perfect restaurant or find the best bar in the area, and make all of the money you want, but when it comes to charming a woman, it all comes down to the conversation. Which is why it’s so frustrating when certain conversations seem to go nowhere, only ending up with large moments of awkward silence before the two of you go your separate ways. The problem is that you are focusing on the wrong topics of conversation. Luckily, it’s an easy fix.

By utilizing the following conversation topics, you’ll be able to attract women by turning good conversations into great conversations.

1. When you were kids…
No matter how old you are, your childhood will always hold a special place in your heart. By opening yourself up and letting the woman know what kind of circumstances you come from, you’ll not only show her your emotional side, but also give her a chance to relate. By opening up the floor for conversation topics about childhood, she will have her own experiences she will want to talk about, allowing her to shoulder a lot of the conversation itself.

2. What you’re passionate about…
This is the easiest topic to use for two reasons. First, it allows the woman to (once again) see your emotional side, something that will only help win her over. Second, it gives you a chance to talk about something you actually enjoy talking about! This will make the conversation float easily, taking the weight off of it. In the same way, after talking about your own passions, steer the conversation in the direction of hers, asking her a lot of questions about what she enjoys doing. Later on when she thinks about the conversation she had with you, she’ll remember it being a lot of fun because she was talking about what she loves.

3. The people surrounding you…
Since this is a woman you’ve spent very little time with, you don’t have a lot of common experiences from which to draw from … except the current experience you’re having. Form a bond with her by discussing your surroundings, whether it be the type of bar you’re currently in, the food in the restaurant, or the people surrounding you. One thing I love doing whenever I’m talking with a woman is making up back stories for the various strangers surrounding us. This puts us in a collaborative mood and allows me to flex my creative side.

4. Her ambitions…
While talking about your current job and your past is all well and good, women put a lot of stock into where the man is going. But even more important than that is getting her to speak about her own future ambitions. This will, once again, steer the conversation in her direction, letting her talk about herself. Also, it will boost the emotional state of the conversation, since no one can talk about their own ambitions without getting a little bit excited about them.

5. Her travels
Travel is always a fun topic, but this is a part where it’s best to step back and let her talk. While the places you’ve traveled could be great, and you could have so many stories from your various adventures, too many of those and it looks like you’re trying too hard to impress her. Instead, start the topic off about travel and then start inquiring about her own stories. This will showcase her various passions, desires, world views, etc. which you can call back later on in the conversation.

6. Your life lessons
While this isn’t necessarily a “topic”, it’s important to shade all of your conversations by asking yourself this question: What lesson has this taught you? By having this depth in every topic of conversation, you are not only showcasing the depth of your own thought (again, something women enjoy finding in men), but also once again spreading the branches of the conversation tree as far as they can go. Instead of just talking about this fight you got into in 5^th grade (one topic) you can talk about your various feelings that were going through your mind at the time and the lessons you’ve learned from the fight (many topics). From there, the conversation will expand on its own.

7. Your thoughts on pop culture / current events
If worse comes to worse, use any thoughts you have on pop culture or current events to keep the conversation from falling into any awkward silences. However, don’t use this conversation topic too often or else you will come off as boring and with no depth.
>>>Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy and learn how to instantly generate attraction through the way you talk to women.

How to Have Better Conversations with Women

Walking up to a beautiful woman out of nowhere and introducing yourself is one of the hardest parts of being a man. In fact, it takes so much out of you that, a lot of the time, you forget the next important step of the conversation: Actually having something to talk about. Luckily, if you follow these tips you won’t have a problem maintaining a conversation with a woman.

Tip 1: Non-Verbals are Important
More than anything else, non-verbal cues are what distinguish a good conversation from a bad one. If you’ve ever seen two people really hitting it off from across the bar, you can tell they’re into each other right away. It doesn’t matter if the actual discussion they’re having is about quantum physics or a debate on the value of the Earnest movies, the fact that they’re into each other is evident with how they move together.

In the same way, when talking to a woman you want to make her feel comfortable and project that you’re a confident man. A great pickup artist once told me that the correct way to approach any girl in a conversation is to have it in your mind that she’s already told you that she’s going to sleep with you later that night. That way, in your head at least, there is absolutely no pressure. Since it’s going to happen anyway (in your head, remember) you can talk about anything you want and can be more comfortable. However, talking in a comfortable pose (remember: non-verbals) can often lead to that fantasy scenario actually coming true.

Tip 2: Talk about your passions
Mystery has said it in the past: “Enthusiasm breeds enthusiasm.” So if you are passionate about something, don’t be afraid to show it. Now, there is a fine line to take here – you don’t want to needlessly steer the conversation into the direction of your passions all the time – but if you happen  to start to talk about the stock market, and that’s something you’re truly passionate about, don’t be afraid to show it. Women are always looking for men to show their emotions, and passion is one.

Tip 3: Playground mentality
Go into the conversation with a “playground mentality”, as in, feel free to tell stupid jokes or give her strange high-fives here and there. By using that 3^rd grade humor, you’ll get her to feel comfortable in the conversation, which is one of the most important parts. As long as you show her you’re a fun guy – no need to keep a sourpuss on your face like some emo rock star – then she’ll be more apt to want to talk to you again down the line.

Tip 4: Don’t ask too many questions
While women love to talk about themselves – and the easiest way to do this is by badgering them with a bunch of questions – too much can lead to the conversation feeling like an interrogation. Instead, after she’s answered an initial question, feel free to follow that up with a statement.
For example, after you ask her if she has any pets, and she mentions she has three cats, don’t go right into the question about what their names are. Once you found that out, there’s not a whole lot of places to go with the conversation. Instead, say something like “I heard that cat lovers are more inclined to be independent than dog lovers” which will open up the conversation a bit and get her to talk about herself without her feelings like you’re putting her under the hot spotlight of the interrogation room.

Tip 5: Lengthen your answers
When she asks a bit about yourself, try to lengthen the answer a bit instead of just answering the question directly. While there’s a fine art of doing this – you don’t want to give too much away, remember, as that will take away a lot of the mystery surrounding you – it is better to give a longer answer than a shorter one in most cases.

For example, if she asks you what you like, a good answer is not to say “I like baseball.” Instead, answer like this: “I like baseball because it reminds me of the time my dad spent playing catch with me in the yard, building our father-son connection.” From there, the conversation can go into all sorts of places and you’ve also shown your soft side by opening up a bit about your feelings. Win-win!

Tip 6: Use cold reads
The art of cold-reading is important. In it, you use clues from either how she’s standing, what she’s wearing, or what she’s talking about to make correct assumptions about her. It’s going to take some practice, but generally speaking if you’re getting a feeling about a girl, you’re going to be right about it.

For example, if she continues talking about a large amount of ex-boyfriends, tell her that she “seems like the type of girl who has a hard time settling down because she craves too much excitement out of life.” Not only will you show her that you’ve been paying attention this whole time to the conversation, but also now the conversation can once again be about her, a topic no woman doesn’t enjoy.


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The Five Deadliest Conversation Mistakes You Make With Women and What to Do About It

Here are the top five ways men murder their conversations with women before they ever even have a chance to create attraction.
Let’s face it…

If you want to create attraction in a woman… you must possess the ability to talk.
You can know all the “secret attraction building techniques” in the world… but if you can’t carry a conversation… YOU GET NO WHERE….



Mistake #1:  Breaking the 90/10 Rule When Starting a Conversation
Have you ever noticed that most conversations don’t pick up steam until about 5-10 minutes in?
This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psyche yourself up – making yourself ready to start that conversation.

A conversation needs time to build “conversation momentum.”
The problem most guys face is that don’t ever give their conversations a chance to build that “momentum.”

Most guys expect to hit this “conversation flow” too quickly.  And because of this the opposite effect happens… and their conversations just “stall out.”

Well you have to carry the conversation. Be prepared, in the first five or so minutes, to carry the conversation by providing 90, or even sometimes 100, percent of all the content until they get warmed up a little bit.
How do you do that?
Keep talking!

Well the rule is very simple: Just keep talking.
By taking control of the conversation right from the beginning, you allow her time to “warm up” and shift her brain from “receive mode” rather than “give mode.”

You HAVE be prepared to talk 90% of the time for the first 5-10 minutes of your conversations….
Mistake #2: Not Recognizing the Signals a Woman is Giving Them

You have to recognize the signals that women are giving to you so you know whether you have got the right kind of emotional intensity – the right energy – and whether the topics you are talking about are actually even appropriate for this point in the conversation.
How do you do that?

Well, you use your senses. Your eyes and your ears are your best friends. You have got to watch people’s reactions and learn to be able to read them.

You have a good sense of when you are boring her, when she is excited and how she is reacting to you. You just have to make sure you pay attention.

The rule of thumb is when you first start a conversation with someone or with a group of people you want to have a little bit more energy than that group had before you came in.

If you get to recognize where she is at in terms of her energy level, her enthusiasm, her excitement, how her neurology is wired up and lit up, and you can pitch your own energy level to be just slightly above that, you will be sure to be a success wherever you go because you will not be too much and you will not be too little.

Mistake #3:  Not Assuming Rapport Right From the Beginning
For the longest time I could never understand why it took so long for me to develop rapport with women… while my friends seem to jump right into it…
And then it hit me…

I was waiting for rapport to happen naturally… they were assuming it.
When you are talking to a woman, even if it’s your first time talking to her… talk to her in the same laid back way you would talk to an old friend.

Most guys do the complete opposite… they talk to a woman in a “stiff, formal” way reserved for strangers…. And this just makes it more apparent that you are a STRANGER.  And this puts her guard up.  And this creates that uncomfortable “awkwardness” that is devastating to a conversation.
By jumping right into rapport you create a more natural feeling conversation and give her the feeling of “knowing you forever.”

Mistake #4:  Going into “Interview Mode”
I know you’ve experienced it… talking to a woman, and feeling like you’re on a job interview.
This is the dreaded “interview mode.”

This happens when you don’t know what to talk about so to keep the conversation going you ask questions like:
What do you do for a living?
What do you do for fun?
Where did you grow up?
What kind of music do you like?
It’s not the questions themselves that kill you… the rapid firing of question after question… and the steady stream of fact based answers that destroy any sort of “chemistry.”

A conversation is supposed to fun vibing back and forth… it’s not supposed to feel like a job interview.

Mistake #5:  Letting her “Lead” the Conversation
Most guys are so unsure of themselves when talking to a woman that they look for the woman to give them “approval” or “permission” before they take any lead in the conversation.
And this is DEAD wrong.

The minute a woman realizes you’re looking to her to lead the conversation… her attraction instantly disappears.

Most guys let the woman lead the conversation because they are scared of “pissing her off” or choosing the wrong topic…
But here is the thing…

Women will follow whatever tone you set for the conversation.  If you set a fun, flirty vibe… she will follow.

And even if she isn’t interested in the topic you’ve chose to discuss… she’ll still respect you a lot more for taking the initiative.

The Biggest Mistake:
Do you want to know what the biggest mistake men make in regards to their conversations with women?

Not getting help.
Would you believe that 10 years ago it was nearly impossible to find this sort of information on improving your conversations with women?  This meant that guys were forced to either struggle forever, or figure it out on their own.

However, you have no excuse… as there is help available.  Help that can change your “game” almost overnight.  Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy can help you.  It’s jam packed with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for creating the right mindset for talking to a woman, getting “in the zone”, making her laugh, creating rapport, keeping a conversation flowing naturally, overcoming “shit tests”, dealing with guys who might be overshadowing you, and most importantly, creating attraction as you talk to her…

This is arguably the most comprehensive “conversation training” you will ever receive.  There is no way you can listen to this program and not come away with at least a dozen tips that will change the way you communicate with women …nearly immediately.

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Rules to Follow If You Want to Create a Memorable Date

In everything that we want to achieve, there are rules to be followed to guarantee our success. We cannot leave our success to chances, we have to create strategies and follow proven rules to achieve our goals. It is the same with dating; there are rules to be followed to create a memorable dateand achieve success in dating. Dating is a crucial stage in finding the person who could be your lifetime partner so it is best to do the right things when dating someone.

To make your date a success, you have to create a memorable date that could be remembered with a smile on your face. Here are the basic rules to be followed to succeed in dating:

Be punctual. Time is the most precious possession we have and must be spend wisely. It can be a big turn off wasting someone else’s time by keeping him or her waiting for you. Respect someone else’s time because in this busy world, you have to be grateful for someone who choose to spend time with you. To create a memorable date, you have to observe punctuality. Be on time or appear minutes before the agreed time. First impression do lasts, and if you will leave a bad first impression by keeping your date waiting, it could affect your success with the person you wish to have a good romantic relationship with. Prepare early for your date. Block the scheduled day for your date and make sure it is the only important event for you on that day.

Effectively handle your nervousness. It is normal to feel butterflies in your stomach but you have to control your nervousness and do not allow it to control you if you want to create a memorable date. Too much nervousness can distract you from performing well on your date and you will appear like someone who has low self-esteem and without self confidence which can be a real turn off. Learn to effectively handle your nervousness. Do not feed yourself with negative thoughts; instead of feeling nervous, be positive that everything will turn out well. It can be really helpful to prepare yourself mentally and physically if the date is giving you anxiety, especially if this is the first date. Sleep early, eat healthy and think about beautiful things. If you need to practice in front of the mirror on how you will converse with your date to ease your nervousness then do so. Always think that dating is not something to be scared of, dating is an enjoyable thing to do to get to know the person you like.

Be truthful. Do not complicate things by telling lies just to impress your date. Things like these could backfire and could really get ugly in the end. There are many ways to create a memorable date and impress your date but dishonesty is not one of them. Honesty is the best policy and deceiving your date is not a good thing. Being honest with the person you date means you will also receive honesty from your date. Being true to your feelings and your words makes dating more meaningful. It is nice to be accepted for who you really are.

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3 Simple Dating Rules for Men

In the dating scene there are simple rules that men should follow. It is important to know how to behave on a date. It is best not to pretend and be yourself on a date but of course there are simple dating rules for men that you should know to avoid screwing up on your dates.

Going on dates with the woman you like is your opportunity to know her more and the opportunity to let her know your good intentions. If you do not behave properly on a date, you may lose the chance to know her more and the chance to have a romantic relationship with her. The following simple dating rules for men can be very helpful to achieve dating success with women.

Dress nicely. Our physical appearance is an important part of who we are. The way you present yourself physically tells something about your personality. In the dating arena, it is important to be presentable so do your best to dress nicely. This will show that you care about your appearance and you also care what she thinks about you.

Learn about the woman you are going to date. It is best to research and ask about the girl you want to date. Just be discrete about it because you do not want her to think that you are spying on her. You just want to know a little something about her to avoid offending her on your date. For instance, if she is an independent woman, then opening doors for her may offend her or she may not like it. She may also insist paying for her meals. But if you are going out on a date with a woman who is not independent, she will appreciate your gesture of opening doors and pulling chairs for her. Of course you have to be prepared to pay for the entire date and pick her up on time.

Do not take your date on places you cannot afford. Do not put yourself in an embarrassing situation and end up asking your date to share to cover the expenses on your date. It is not true that an enjoyable date is expensive. You can have an enjoyable date without spending too much. But of course if you can afford it, there is nothing wrong to plan and spend on an extravagant date.

Following the above mentioned simple dating rules for men can help avoid common dating mistakes. But of course you also have to know how to attract women to ensure that you will eventually create a romantic relationship with the woman you are dating.

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Tips to Achieve Success in Dating Women – First Date Tips for Men

You do not want to screw up on your first date. Screwing up on your first date means you will not get another chance to go out on another date with the woman you really like. If you want to achieve success in dating women, the following tips can be very helpful.

Good grooming. Physical appearance counts in dating women. You have to appear fresh and you have to smell good. Most women want their date to be clean and presentable so it is important to take a shower before your date. Put attention to your nails, shoes and wear well-pressed clothes. To achieve success in dating women, your appearance and cleanliness are important so present yourself looking fresh and well-groomed to leave a good first impression on your date.

Punctuality counts. Be on time and do not make your date wait. Making a woman wait especially on your first date is not a good thing and it will not leave a good impression on her. You will be regarded as someone unreliable or worse she may think you are arrogant and you do not want that to happen on your first date. It is best to get there earlier than the agreed time and show her that you are excited and looking forward to your date with her. Punctuality counts if you want to achieve success in dating women.

Learn to listen. Most women love to talk so be attentive and listen to what she is saying. You asked her for a date because you want to know her more so avoid talking too much about yourself. Make her feel that you are interested to know her more.

Be a gentleman. Women love to be treated with respect and most women want to feel they are special. You have to remember that if you want to achieve success in dating women. In this modern world, women still want men to open doors for them, pull the chair for them and treat them like princesses. So be a gentleman and treat her nicely not only on your first date but every time you are with her. It is also appropriate and gentlemanly to offer to pay for your date. If she insists to pay half of the cost, then do not resist if it will make her feel good.

Leaving a great first impression on your date can guarantee you of getting another chance to date the girl you really like. It is not that hard to achieve success in dating women if you know what to do.

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