The world of dating is a weird, weird world. That’s why so many
horror stories come from it. Less horror stories come from actual horror
novels than the world of real-world dating, and that fact is disturbing
to anyone who puts a feeler out to the real world of men meeting women,
women meeting men, and same genders meeting other same-gendered people.
Or any other variation we might’ve missed. It’s all basically
frightening and can scar you for life if you let it – you’ve probably
met somebody that’s been incredibly burned by the dating scene. It’s not
a pretty sight.
So, let’s try to sift through the chaff and find the strategies and
tips that’ll work universally for people who are trying to either meet
that special someone, or juggle a few special somebodies. These are dating tips
for those out there carrying the Y-Chromosome. The men who want to get
out there and get at them. Here are some things to keep in mind when
you’re going around town, hitting the scene.
4 Dating Tips for Men
1. Women want to date good men.
They say 10% of the men that are out there get 90% of the women. Why?
Because they’re the alpha males of the group. They have the pick of the
women they want, while the rest of us shuffle our feet around and play
the ‘nice guy’. They don’t have to. They already have the interest, and
just have to parlay it into coordinating the proper logistics and
pushing physical escalation forward. Sucks, doesn’t it? Not really,
because once you learn what it is women are after, you can actively make
yourself into the type of person that can add value to them instead of
taking it away. You can stop being that guy who takes things away from
people, and start being the guy who adds. It’s entirely fixable.
2. Women want to date men who are leaders.
This is more subtle, but if someone is projecting influence on the
group, that’s the person everyone’s going to be attracted to. In a loud
group, the quiet one is viewed as the odd one out and the attractive
one. In a quiet group, the loud one is the same way. The person who can
influence everyone’s actions and gets the most attention, the person
that people defer to is generally the leader. You can be a leader. Stop
being the quietest, most timid version of yourself, and live up to the
promise of the image that you have in your head. Instead of thinking
about what the proper thing to do in a given situation is, think about
what the best version of yourself would do, and simply follow suit.
3. Don’t be afraid of getting sexual.
One of the biggest problems that you see again and again with guys
that are going out is that they get the girls interested in them, then
don’t know what to do once the energy in a conversation shifts in a
different direction. Girls want to be sexual. Otherwise, they’d have no
use for us men. They’d just sit at home, doing whatever it is that
brings them joy, but there’s something in them – just like us – that
makes them want to ravage the men they find attractive. You just have to
be that attractive man. So, when the best version of yourself is faced
with a girl who is hanging around you, trying to be alone with you, etc.
etc. – what is he going to do? He’s going to step up his game and bring
it to the next level is what he’s going to do. Isolate her, and start
up an escalation ladder. Either one that you’ve heard about before, or
one that works for you.
4. Don’t be afraid of meeting a lot of people.
There’s a great big world out there, with a lot of people doing a lot
of different things. Guess what? You have an opportunity to sift
through them and find the right person that works for you. That’s not a
curse, it’s a blessing. Once you get out into the great big world of
dating, you have to realize that having taste and choice will serve you
in stead rather than limiting yourself. If you have taste and a powerful
frame, be prepared – it’s going to be much easier than you originally
thought it would be. Girls like that in people – it doesn’t matter what
you look like. Looks are just what YOU think they are. Girls really
don’t care.
They care more about what you bring to the table status-wise. But
that’s an entirely different article to be looking at, other than just
some simplistic dating tips for men.
Get out there and enjoy yourself. That’s what life is all about, isn’t it? I hope you enjoyed these dating tips for men.